Small Head



So today’s posting is a throwback to my short stint on tumblr from about 2011-2012, where I shared random stories/occurrences that took place in my life. ¬†Enjoy ūüėČ


I like Chipotle, and by like, I mean I really really like – so much so that I‚Äôm thinking of dedicating to them a remix of J. Cole‚Äôs ‚ÄėCan‚Äôt Get Enough‚Äô.¬† It‚Äôs that serious, but I‚Äôm working on¬†it.

Anywho, I‚Äôm in line the¬†other day after submitting my usual order¬†for¬†a chicken burrito bowl, when the cashier gives me a compliment on my haircut.¬† I‚Äôve been¬†rocking a near baldy for about 4 years now, and¬†decided to do it on a whim just to see¬†how it would look.¬† Needless to say, I ended up¬†loving it, and¬†after trying different short hair cut variations (including the infamous mohawk – loved that too!), I‚Äôm now experimenting with what I like to call the ‚Äúfuzzy top‚ÄĚ.¬†¬†The ‚Äúfuzzy top‚ÄĚ is my modified version of the high top fade, which¬†seems to be making a comeback.

The originator of the high top fade

The originator of the high top fade

I get some pretty interesting feedback about my hairstyle choices, but¬†for the most part they‚Äôre positive.¬† This¬†Chipotle cashier was no exception, as she commented that she ‚Äúloved my hair!‚Ä̬† She caught me a little off guard as I was mentally already¬†caught in the bliss of enjoying my chicken burrito bowl, but her comment brought me back to¬†reality as I graciously thanked her.¬† But her compliment didn‚Äôt end there, oh no.¬† ‚ÄúIt looks good on you, you have such a nice small head!‚Ä̬†¬†I automatically thanked her again for her ‚Äúcompliment‚ÄĚ, and it was only later – after I ate my chicken burrito bowl of course, that I was able to process what she‚Äôd said.¬†¬†Telling someone that they have a small head isn‚Äôt really a compliment.¬†¬†I understood what she meant, as it¬†wasn‚Äôt the first time that I‚Äôve been complimented on my less-than-gargatuan head size, but¬†everytime I hear my head referred to as ‚Äúsmall‚ÄĚ, I can‚Äôt help¬†but have a visual of the pawn shop owner from the ‚ÄėMen in Black‚Äô.¬†¬†You know, the one whose head regrows after being shot off by Agents J or K?


Yeah, his head isn’t exactly one that I aspire to emulate.  Now don’t get me wrong, I do appreciate the cashier’s compliment (along with the fact that she works at the greatest place on Earth!), but I would place the small head compliment in the same category as telling someone they look sick.  While said comment is well intentioned, it can also carry a negative connotation that suggests that the person does not look their best .  Hopefully said person is sick, because if not, then they have just been dissed.  Just saying.

It’s not easy drinking green

kermit smoothie meme

I’m generally a supporter of anything that promotes health and wellness, especially within my own community as health disparities are a very real thing. ¬†This has led to me adopting a general openness to new experiences, including becoming a green smoothie enthusiast!

green smoothie

I was first introduced to green smoothies a few years ago, and since then have perfected a very simple recipe that doesn’t require fancy equipment (a simple blender will do) and that tastes pretty good to boot! ¬†So when I was recently invited to join a friend of mine on her 7-day green smoothie challenge, I was so down. ¬†When she presented the idea, all I heard was ‘Challonge!’ and I was all like:


I woke up on Day 1 and whipped up four mason jars full of green smoothie goodness to take with me throughout the day.  Bananas, frozen strawberries and spinach went into the blender, and I excitedly awaited their consumption along with the resulting energy boost.  I even thought I was cute and created a video short to post (thanks iMovie!) on instagram to share about my green smoothie challenge, hoping to entice others I knew to join me for 7 whole days of nothing but green smoothies.  Turn down for what?!
Needless to say, I got very few takers, most likely because others more quickly realized that a green smoothie challenge during cold weather months is probably not the most fun idea. ¬†Now, this isn’t to say that the feat is impossible. ¬†Hardly! ¬†But it takes a lot to come home after a long cold day (& I live in lovely Wisconsin…smh) and happily reach for something cold for dinner. ¬†Sadly – those few beginning instagram posts were all I contributed during that 7-day stretch, as I failed miserably at just drinking green smoothies for the entire duration. ¬†Now, I did manage to consciously consume 1-2 green smoothies per day during that time period, which is more than I usually consume. ¬†I also became more focused on what else I could do to support my reaching optimal/health wellness.
Overall, the challenge was a fail, but I am now intent on maintaining a diet and activity level that will result in preservation of the sexy. ¬†One of the most enjoyable (and empowering) fitness activities that I’ve participated in in the past was pole fitness, and I have my eye on some local class offerings. ¬†We’ll see what the future holds, until then – stay tuned ūüėČ

Urban Dictionary – How I Heart Thee

urban dictionary

Since entering my 30’s and moving to an arguably less “urban” city, I came to the harsh realization that I was losing touch with the slang that I had come to embrace in my teens. ¬†Thankfully my friend circle does include individuals who are younger than me and who help to keep me current (I’m not old enough to use the term “hip”…just saying). ¬†There are times, however when I’ve scrolled through Tumblr/Instagram/Twitter/etc. and found myself scratching my head as to what they’re talking about. ¬†Case in point:


Come again IHOP? ¬†Even my younger acquaintances were unable to assist me with this term. ¬†At times like this, I turn to Urban Dictionary – a trusty companion who discreetly hides your unawareness by providing you with the knowledge you need. ¬†According to Urban Dictionary, fleek is synonymous with¬†perfection¬†and is often used to describe one’s eyebrows when they have been properly groomed (in the above instance IHOP chose to apply the meaning differently for obvious reasons). ¬†Thanks to Urban Dictionary, I now feel confident incorporating this term into my everyday vocabulary – such as complimenting a coworker on their writing skills by commenting that their recent report was on fleek!


Ok, so the term may not have universal applicability, but I do appreciate Urban Dictionary for helping me maintain a vocabulary that the youngsters can appreciate ūüėČ ¬†That and for helping IHOP’s social media manager provide a steady Twitter feed that is chuckle-worthy.


You’ll get that one on your way home! ¬†Or maybe you won’t – which highlights the need for you to incorporate visits to Urban Dictionary* into your life ūüėČ


*It is advised that you refrain from visiting this website while at the workplace, unless you or your coworkers have the urgent need to understand what terms like ‘banana polish’ mean. ¬†Either way, don’t say you weren’t warned.

Are you angry? Good!

FB-Meme-Inspire-JusticeI once read that ‘A¬†problem that makes you angry is something that you were designed to solve’,¬†and while I have no recollection of the original author I do believe that statement to be true. ¬†Now – Pharrell’s inspiration aside, I (in general) am a pretty happy go-lucky person. ¬†I don’t hold onto grudges, and little things tend to not get me down…at least not for long. ¬†Though few and potentially far between, there are those moments when something just sets. me. OFF! ¬†A recent occurrence that took me there was the tragedy that continues to play out in the media in Ferguson, MO. ¬†That situation prompted me to take action by becoming personally educated on the issues that were important to me and connect to like-minded individuals who were seeking solutions. ¬†Since then, I have been paying close attention to other situations that have prompted me to act. ¬†In doing so, I noticed a common theme among the things that triggered me: they were all social-justice oriented. ¬†Case in point:

Situation: Unarmed teen is shot by police and then his humanity is put on trial by the media to justify the action

My response: Argh Рthat sucks!  Now, what can I do about it?

Situation: My new home state is¬†leading the nation in incarceration rates of Black males…that in spite of Blacks making up less than 10% of the total population

My response: Argh Рthat sucks!  Now, what can I do about it?

Situation:¬†Shonda Rhimes accused of being an “angry Black women” by the NY Times for daring to create shows with diversity and strong female leads.

My response: Argh Рthat sucks!  Now, what can I do about it?

Situation: Just got out of church¬†& I have a taste for a Chik Fil A kid’s meal. ¬†Wait -Chik Fil A is closed on Sundays!!

My response: Argh Рthat sucks!  Now, what can I do about it?

angry leslie knope


Ok – so that last example may not have equaled the first three in the emotional response it elicited from me, but it does suck when you have a taste for something and can’t satisfy that craving…just saying. ¬†Bottom line, my awareness of my triggers highlighted to me that an important aspect of my purpose is to promote social justice. ¬†Since then, I have connected myself to a few likeminded individuals and groups, Justified Anger being one of them and Groundwork another, to contribute towards solutions to¬†address social injustices in the city I reside. ¬†I feel so fulfilled in the work that I have been able to do, and have an immense amount of respect for those individuals who have and continue to do the work of fighting injustice. ¬†Cornel West said it best when he defined justice as what love looks like in public. ¬†I couldn’t agree more, and will continue to support the demonstration of true, agape love by promoting social justice for all.

So if you find yourself angry – that might just be a good thing if it highlights an area of your purpose that you were designed to solve. ¬†Now it’s time to get to work!